Girl, Misunderstood

So many lessons to be learned. So many mistakes to be made. A girl lives everyday with the fear of being betrayed. In an era where a woman's worth has been lessened to that of hoes, thirsty gold diggers, and crazy, psychotic baby mama's, these perspectives have greatly affected how a woman lives and of course, loves.

Hoe. This word is used in many different contexts--whether comedic or not, we all know what it means. Social media has expanded the capabilites of bitter and angry women and men alike to express their opinions in the most public and humiliating ways. From hoe lists, tagged statuses and photos,subtweets, anonymous and hacked Facebook and Twitter accounts, it's like no one is safe. Even the innocent. Even the men who've worked so hard to make sure that they aren't labeled "just another nigga" or the women who've done the same to remain free of the label: "just another hoe."

And in spite of these things, the culture of our generation only perpetuates the strength of the word "hoe" and what it can do to one's reputation.

We all learn as growing adults that there will always be someone trying to bring us down. But there is a line that must never be crossed. Unfortunately, it seems like that line fades with every passing day.

"Thirsty hoes." 

Although there are women who have the shallow intentions of only dating/marrying/having sex with a guy who has money or has a certain social status (athlete, musician, etc.) this isn't always the case. Women who prefer to date successful men simply want the security of being taken care of.

And because the chivalry, love, respect, and admiration for women has dimished significantly, women have resorted to gaining a more detatched and shallow way of thinking. Women have now learned how to date and "hook-up" without forming any feelings or emotions. Just like men have used women for sex, women are now using men for money. Women understand that many men won't love them unconditionally the way they feel like they deserve or want to be loved. So, they've resorted to using men for money and resources.

I feel that this thirst is simply a facade. A last resort to avoid getting too involved which usually leads to getting heartbroken. The thirst is really for love, acceptance, and appreciation. If you failed to feel any of these things, you'd be a little thirsty too.

I've written angry poems and posts dedicated to the experiences that, unfortunately, most girls, including myself, must endure in order to grow stronger and more wise and this is not one of them. It's just a rant, just an opinion of a girl who has grown into a woman and refuses to sit back and say or do nothing.

-R.